All brides are beautiful – every single one who gets married here is radiant – glowing. You can see their joy. People are naturally drawn to love, want to share the warmth. Love seems to bring out the best in all of us – joy and happiness are contagious in the best way. Why then does the media make brides and weddings seem so awful? So filled with tension and anxiety – so fraught with problems, near disasters and plans gone awry that tears and tantrums are a forgone conclusion. I thought wedding tears were supposed to be tears of joy???
It’s a wedding – a day of celebrating the love two people share and their commitment to that love and each other. Whether it’s a private moment shared by two or a huge event shared by hundreds, a wedding is still merely a few notes in a symphony that will play out over a lifetime. It’s the love and the commitment that matter – not the wedding or the price tag. There isn’t a “wrong” way to get married. There isn’t a minimum purchase price required for a “real marriage”. I have seen weddings with no guests and a $500 budget (honeymoon included) that were breathtakingly beautiful, touching, loving and inspiring ……..and been left cold by weddings with 500 guests, 20 attendants, a $5000 wedding gown and a total price tag of $250K. All the couples still ended up just as married in the end. A perfect wedding doesn’t buy a perfect marriage any more than the 1st bars of a symphony guarantee you’ll enjoy the rest of it.
True love and commitment isn’t something you can buy, or find or even define – but I can promise, you’ll recognize it when you see it – it’s in the little glances the quiet smile and the absent patting of a knee between a couple in their 90′s who have been together 60 or 70 years. When you see that love and devotion you aren’t wondering what their wedding was like.





